First off I want to say that I hope you all are enjoying your first couple weeks back at school or if you work I hope you are enjoying work!
It took me a realllllly long time to figure out what exactly I was going to write about. But I finally figured it out!!! I decided to write about something that applied to not only my life right now as a college student but to your lives in your schools, work places, and communities.
There are so many times when we underestimate the word "friend." At times we think someone is a really good friend but soon find out they aren't. Or we think someone is a terrible friend but soon find out they are better than that good friend you thought you had. The dictionary says that the word friend means someone who gives assistance; supporter. This is so true. In my opinion, a good friend is someone who wants to spend time with you to get to know you, and that will always be there for you no matter what happens.
Here in college I have had to make a whole new group of friends. I came on August 18th not knowing anyone but my roomate. I reached out and used the "be a friend" step to success and made many new friends. I also made a friend and thought she was a good friend but she ended up being extremely hateful to me and my friends. So you just move on and make new friends. You can tell when you walk to classes and tell who is upset and needs a friend. Just reach out to them as God has intended for us all to do. :)
Kristen this is really what I needed to hear right now. Thank you so much for posting this. I am seriously in tears at the moment trying to figure things out about what we (I think it was us) talked about on Sunday. I still haven't started school yet, but thank you for the well wishes. I will answer your questions when I'm not running around like a chicken with my headcut off and have settled into college life a little after moving in tomorrow. <3 you so much! Thank you once again for posting this when I really needed it the most. Deff a God thing right here!
ReplyDeleteWoot I'm back!!! I have been so busy with school it's crazy... I've only been in school for 3days... But so far it's good. I love my teachers so far!!! <3
ReplyDeleteA good friend is someone who is always there for you no matter what.. Someone who is trusting and loving.Someone who would sit there and listen to your problems for hours. Someone who will cry with you, laugh with you, or even be goofy with you! :)
Be willing to talk to people and actually listen to what they are saying. Don't put them down and talk behind their back.
I hopefully will be on tomorrow. I want to tell a story that happened last friday. It's kind of chessy in a way but made me feel good. :)
Kristen, I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope I can be a good friend to you. Bren and I's room can be a safe place for you if you'd like. It's almost always unlocked if we're in it.
ReplyDeleteAs for what makes a good friend all we have to do is look to Jesus to set the example. "Greater love hath no man than this, that he lay down his life for a friend." John 15:13
I agree with Kristen. A friend is someone who will support you matter what. As all of you know I moved to Georgia over a year ago. The night before I left I basically cried myself to sleep. I didn't want to leave everything I knew. I didn't want to leave my friends. Well when I left well I found out who my true friends were. True friends will also be your friend when you live 1200+ miles from them. When I moved alot of my friends stopped talking to me. I was told a few times by people that I couldn't be there friend because I was moving. That hurt, but now I'm here and I don't have that many friends down here. So my SR family and a few of my friends from high school in Iowa are all I have. That's ok though. I am who I am and I will always be friends with someone as long as they give me the chance to be there friend.
ReplyDeleteFunny thing-I just read this new post and then checked my emails and received this from a friend. I believe this is a good one:
ReplyDeleteFriends-they love you, they care for you. But they're not from your family, they're ready to share your pain. But they're not your blood relation, they are friends! A true friend scolds like a dad, cares like a mom, teases like a sister, irritates like a brother and loves you more than any other. The nicest place 2 be is in someone's thoughts; the safest place 2 be is in someone's prayers and the best place 2 be is in God's Hands!!!
So true, Kristen! I'll write something more meaningful tomorrow, tonight I'm super tired. I went to the MN State Fair twice.
ReplyDeleteGood job on your first blog post! It is VERY accurate. Good job making new friends, and sorry that one person turned out to be a not-so-good friend.
A good friend is someone who understands what you are saying not only with words, but also your actions. They make you laugh until you cry, or laugh to stop you from crying. They form that speical bond that is difficult to break and can hold up mountains. They are there for you 24/7/365 (or 366 on leap year!) They become a family with you like what Renee shared with us. All in all every person in the friendship can be 100% honest with the others, and not feel left out, alone, or like they will be judged. Finally with a good friend you can sit there in silence for hours not saying a word, but still feel as if it was a meaningful time together.
ReplyDeleteNow, I'm just saying with Facebook and this blog it is going to be the death of me this year at school! I have been on fb and here avoiding my reading that I have to do for my first day of classes tomorrow!!! Ahhhhhh!
Kelli- You still have to do your school work. You also NEED to sleep so no late nights till 5 in the morning doing homework!!!
ReplyDeleteA true frind is someone who cares about you and knows when to be there to try and cheer you up or to just sit in silence and listen. A friend doesnt judge you by your appearance or you race or your religion because we are all God's children and nothing can change that. A true friend loves yo and will be there for you no matter what the case my be....a bad break up, a death in the family (or of a close friend).
ReplyDeleteby the way i loved everyone's answers so far :)
Kelli- make sure you stay on top of things :)
i dont know why it didnt say my name but in case some of you dont know my screen name Drummergurl71 its me Colleen from Ohio:)
ReplyDeleteThanks everyone!!! Just so you guys know...4everalway5 is my friend Kayla. I told her about SR and our blog and she decided to read it and comment!!!
ReplyDeleteKelli- You made me cry when I read your comment. Yes it was me that you talked to on Sunday lol.
Kayla- Welcome to the blog!
ReplyDeleteThanks Kristen for this great post. What great answers everyone!
ReplyDeleteWell a good friend is one that makes you feel like your favorite t-shirt. You know, the one you love to wear around the house because you're "home" & there's no need to "impress". It's someone who you are comfortable with and will tell you when you messed up but will still love you. One you can share anything with and your friend will know just the right thing to say or just listen. It's one that lives far away but when you are together, it's like you never left. A friend is someone you go out of your way to spend a lunch break with...Love my friends -they keep me happy and lift me up when I am down. Thanks everyone!!
Alright, well, the answers I've read so far have been great. I'm sorry if I say something similar to what others have said, but you know that great minds think alike!
ReplyDeleteTrue friends can talk openly, honestly, and tactfully with each other. If one friend has a problem, their true friends are the ones who will not judge them for it, but will also be willing to risk their relationship to get them the help they need.
I know this is uncharacteristically short for me, but I feel so swamped.
College is great, but I am not used to being this busy.
I just realized I never actually answered the question. A true friend is someone you can trust,who you can be honest with. They are someone who will tell you the whole truth, even if you won't like it, just because they're looking out for you.
ReplyDeleteI can be a true friend by always being there for someone, and by always being willing to listen.
Sonja- Thanks! I hope it's cool that I posted the link to SR on my blog.
ReplyDeleteKayla- Yes...It is VERY cool :)
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