Yep, there is a Post Title for you to think about! Today a short one...only because we have to get on the road for North Platte very soon...I got caught up in reading comments. I guess Tom is ultimately right...this takes a LOT more than 5 min to read and it is a GREAT problem to have for sure.
So, today I want to know this. Who has seen Blindside? We saw it yesterday before practice, and although I knew I would like it and had not had a chance to see it yet, it blew me away. Movies about caring about someone FOR NO REASON other than they are human always blow me away. So, who has seen it and what did it mean to you in terms of our SR life together? Who would like to watch it again at practice and talk about it as a group? This is something that I always want to do, but want to make sure that if we dump 2 hours of drumming that we get something out of it...SO...should we make this a goal once it is out on DVD? For now, talk about it and relate it to SR.
Then, last night after practice we once again watched All in the Family (old 70's sitcom)...that teaches SO many great life lessons. The episode was so related to today in America...layoffs, inflation, economy in the tank, people struggling...but what hit me re: SR was the fact that as Archie (main character if you have never seen it) was facing a strike (and therefore no paycheck) his neighbors reached out to help...because we used to have lesson in our entertainment media much more often than today about reaching out and helping others...so just wanted you to know that practice yesterday was book-ended by 2 things, one modern, and one many years old...about the same thing...reaching out to help someone just because we SHOULD do this. So you can talk about that too if you like.
But, finally, I want to know what the word TRUST means to each of you, what it means to trust other people...but more importantly, what it means to live a lifestyle that allows to trust YOU...no matter what.
OK, I MUST go...this is an odd one, but do you best hitting all the points in it.
I've been lurking on here all day (NO SCHOOL! WOOT!) and I refreshed the page and saw that there was a new post. This makes me very happy.
ReplyDeleteI almost got to see Blindside with my friend, but it sold out so we went to the mall and rode the escalators while our moms went shopping (Yeah, we had nothing better to do)
To me, I can trust someone if I know they will never hurt me. I can trust them if they will accept me even if they know every single one of my flaws. I can trust God because he knows every thing that's in my heart, all the meanness and weakness, and he still loves me!
It always is great to meet someone who helps people just because, without expecting a reward. Those people are so rare.
Nope, haven't seen Blindeside yet. I really want to, though, from what people are telling me about it. But I always wait for movies to get to the two dollar theater. :)
ReplyDeleteAs for trust... trust is being able to tell someone anything, and knowing that they won't judge you for it... kind of like Sonja was saying. Trust is like walking with someone and knowing that they will catch you when you stumble. Metaphorically, of course.
I would write more, but it's friday afternoon. I just don't want to think anymore, haha.
I absolutly LOVE this movie! Mom and I saw it when we were in Sioux Falls and it is in Lake Mills this week, so I think I will go to it agian!
ReplyDeleteIn terms of the SR life I know that I have learned to trust people with many different things. When I first started there was a select few people that I felt I could trust to tell my story to until Steve started using it at shows. Some of them I had only met a couple times, but they were nice to me and seemed to be understanding people that I felt I could trust them with anything. I think we could watch it at practice. I feel that we would really get something out of it. To me trust has always been an iffy thing with perticular people. I guess I see trust as being able to talk to people and rely on them without worrying about them going out behind your back and cutting you down. I would like to think that people are able to trust me and that I can always be there for them. My biggest problem has been trusting mysellf to make the right decisions about things, such as college choices for next fall. With me trusting myself I need to rely on God to help me, and know that he will be guiding my every move if I ask.
I guess I'm starting to ramble so I will go away and collect my thoughts again and comment back more later.
First things first, I did not see the Blindside yet. I have heard so many great things about it and have looked forward to seeing it!
ReplyDeleteSecond, Kelli, awesome response on trust. When we have to talk about trust, it seems hard to even describe who to trust and who not. To me, I do like to know that people can trust me. I have had my troubles with trust as I am sure everybody else has, but being in SR should be putting our trust in the group and the people in it. Since Sheltered Reality is like your other family, and we need to trust our family somehow.
Like Steve said, being down and coming out of this recession makes it hard on life. It makes it even especially harder to trust people. I would love to see all of us one day trusting one another because we have faith in one another. The best part is, we can all start doing that now if we follow God and have the highest trust and faith in Him.
Blindeside- I saw it when it like first came out so the theater was packed and I cried so it was pretty good. I loved the message of family and acceptance! It was really good. I def would want to see it again!
ReplyDeleteTo save a life- this is another really good movie and this one meant so much more, and I think that you should watch it because this may be a better movie to watch at sr. Blindside was more homelessness and getting into a family, but To save a life was much more about a place to actually belong. And a high school student learns the importance of good friends, and God. The movie is ultimately about the effects on a high school after a student commits suicide. this movie was so good and I suggest everyone to watch it.
Trust- trust is something that has to be built and takes a long time to build. It means to be able to tell people things and trust them and to not feel judged when telling them. and trust is when you can go to someone to help with problems. when trusting yourself you have to know what is right and most of the time when I need to trust myself on something I pray on it and hope for a sign. I also like to make pro con lists because I think it is easier to fully trust myself if I know that i am making the right decision and have everything to back it up.
About Blind Sid; yea, I went to see it and it was really good and I cried too. I think, too, that it is amazing how she was helping the guy without any valid reason. She didn't have to do it, it was like pure goodness and willingness to put some effort to other people.
ReplyDeleteAbout Trust; As I think, trust is something that one deserves and might have to work to get. Once one has it, it should not be broken, it is hard to build back. It's like knowing that if you are blind folded, the trusted one will be there to guide you :)
Alex I love this line "I would love to see all of us one day trusting one another because we have faith in one another." this is so true! and I also like " but being in SR should be putting our trust in the group and the people in it. Since Sheltered Reality is like your other family, and we need to trust our family somehow." I think this is really true because of the wonderful people in sr.
ReplyDeleteNo, I have not seen Blindside yet, but I really want to. I think it sounds like a good movie from what I have heard. I have seen All in the Family though. I love that show! Anyone who hasn't seen it should watch it sometime. Anyways so I think trust to me is being able to talk to someone or tell something and them being able to talk you and feel comfortable talking to you and not judge you by what you tell them. Also keeping what you share with them private unless you don't want them too. I think for me that people really have to work to get my trust, because I find it really hard to trust anyone. I think the reason I don't trust many people is because so many people have broken their trust with me and judged me from what I have told them. I have found about three people I can trust with anything. Two of them being my friends and the other being God.
ReplyDeleteSo I know I had more to add to that, but I just got majorly sidetracked and forgot what I was going to say, but if I remember it I will add it later! Sorry it stops kinda suddenly! :)
I love that movie!!! to me it meant that even if you are a rich person it doesnt mean that you are stuck up like most movies play rich people up to be. The main character helps that boy, she took him in and even though he had a bad reputation she still took care of him. to me it relates with SR because we are all about helping each other, even if we dont know who excatly we are helping or where they came from. As for watching it at practice i think that it would be a good idea if our practices werent so short. Maybe when we first started the group here in Ohio and had 6 to six and a half hour practices it would be easier to not have to rush so much. But i would definately love to watch it again.
ReplyDeleteAs for the 70's movie i havent seen it but i will search until i find it :)
this is colleen by the way i dont know why it is saying my email address. sorry :(
The Blind Side is an absolutely awesome movie! My favorite part was when the mom told off her uppity friends. She basically followed all the steps of success. This world needs more people like her!
ReplyDeleteTrust has a lot to do with honesty, which is lacking in our world, too. For some people, it takes a long time to earn their trust.
Yep, Edith and Archie - that's real life.
Seeing Blind Side was kinda of a suprise for me, but a wonderful suprise. my friend Bee and I were going to see a movie and it ended up being sold out so Blind Side was about to start so we decided to see that instead. Of course we were a little dissapointed but not too much. Well all can say is that I am glad the other movie was sold out. I loved the movie Blind Side. It was so powerful and inspiring. Those are the types of movies that really stay close to a person. A movie that does good and empowers people.
ReplyDeleteTo me trust has many different meanings. One is being able to tell people anything and having faith in them to try to help or to keep it to themselves. Trust also means to be able to count on someone to be there through the good and the bad. To not give up on you when things get hard or troubling. You have to trust someone to help you get through the hard parts in life. You are giving them a part of you that is special and important. I do think you have to work to achieve trust though. It is not an overnight thing. You have to get to know somebody and really believe that they will be there. And if trust is broken then it is one of the hardest things to get back. Now matter what you say or do whatever you did to lose a person't trust will always be with then which will make them more cautious.
You also have to be able to trust yourslef. If you don't trust yourself you won't have the willpower to move foward in life or try new things. You have to trust that you can do it and make it through. If you don't you could be at a complete standstill.
Steve I think is would be really fun for a whole site to watch am movie like Blind Side then be able to compare and reflect on it. it could spark new ideas.
I thought of something else to say about trust, though I'm not sure how to word it.
ReplyDeleteI think there are different degrees of trust. At one end theres the kind of trust I have in God, where no matter what he won't judge me or hurt me or go behind my back about it. On the other end of the spectrum is no trust, where I don't even want to be in the same room alone with them. My friends and acquaintances fall somewhere along the line.If they abuse the trust they slide towards no trust, but if they prove themselves worthy they get closer to total trust. I hope someone gets there someday.
Anyway, I hope that made sense. It makes perfect sense when I say it in my head. :)
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ReplyDeleteI have not seen the blindside eather but i have heard it was very good. Trust to me means that you have Faith(Faith is always a fun word to write because I live in Faith) in some one, and can count on them do do things for you. I now know that I can trust the Minniapolis group because they donated to our group and we got two new set of drums today(witch is nice because we play on spraypainted 5-gal. buckets). I know I have said this before but thank you so much for the drums when steve today told us that was our supprise i almost went into shock everyone in our group was speechless and teary-eyed except for the little little kids. We are so thankful. Thank you thank you.
ReplyDeleteHaven't seen Blindside. I don't get to see very many movies lately. But, I've heard great things about it and would be interested in seeing it sometime.
ReplyDeleteAs for trust, it is a precious thing that once it is shattered can't be fully repaired. That trust can never be 100% again. Our SR group is like a family and trust is important in that relationship. In a group setting like this, we have to know that if we confide in someone, they are not going to turn around and use that information against us. To me, that is all part of being a friend. If we truly care about another, we will reach out to them so they can trust!
ive never seen blindside.havent even heard about it until now. trust is a very big thing. these days its a hard thing to gain, and an even bigger thing to give! because the world has come to backstabers, liars and people that would do anything to move up in the world. i have major trust issue's. but the one group of people that will always have my trust is my sr family.
ReplyDeleteI was able to see Blind Side and between the tears I noticed that SR steps were constantly there. After hearing the new step.... I recall that the movie contained that as well through out the whole movie. There are several movies (that show SR steps) out there that would be great to show either at practices with Steve/Jordan or even a great way to get together with members in your own site and maybe even invite sites that are close to you to join in the fun.
ReplyDeleteTrust is an issue for me whether it is trusting others,myself, or getting others to feel they can trust me. But if we use the steps we can not only build ourselves up to trust others, but we can also show others that we can be trusted. Also I have to remember there is always ONE that I can trust. That is quite reassuring to me.
Well I havnt seen Blindside yet but Im going to go this week. I hope! I want to see it soo bad. it looks and sounds soo good!
ReplyDeleteAnd All in the Family.. I used to watch that with my grandma all the time!! man I miss that!! I just got done watching one. :D "Boy the way Glen Miller played, songs that made the hit parade, guys like us we had it made, those were the days, and you know where you were then, girls were girls and men were men, mister we could use a man like Herbert Hoover again, didn't need no welfare states everybody pulled his weight, gee our old Lasalle ran great, those were the days!" My grandma and I used to sing that all the time!! :D
Well if I get off subject I dont mean to... I had a blah dayy but oh well im not going to dwell on it. Ok,well trust to me means that you can count on that person noo matter what. You can go to them and not worry if they are going to go around and tell the world. For me i never know who to trust. Its seems like everyone just loves bringing people down and i just dont get why. Well at my school it is. But like its an amazing feeling that when someone comes up to you and is like "I need to talk to someone and I know I can trust you". That makes you feel good. But there more I wanted to write but I just don't remember what. >_<
i totly agre with u steve that helping oters is a good way to go. gust as u guys got us the two drumes we are using as i know
ReplyDeleteSteve-I hope your drive from Rochester went better than mine! Two and a half hours later I have finally made it home, with two near accident situations (both on 90 go figure!)
ReplyDeleteThe first one I was being passes by a semi and had one following me. I could tell there was one ahead of me to because of the blowing snow but I coulndt see taillights. Come to find out (to late) that I couldn't see his tails lights because he was driving without his lights on!!! As soon as I saw this I knew I couldn't slam on my breaks or swerve to the other lane or I would be toast so I ended up on the shoulder of the road fish tailing. who drives in the dark without lights on, specialy when it's snowing and blowing like that?!?
The second one wasn't as dramatic, but this semi was passing me and started merging back into my lane before he was half way by me, I wasn't going to slam on my breaks because I was on a patch of ice, so once again I found myself on the shoulder.
Other than those two my drive was uneventful but rather long. It took an hour more than usual!
I have seen the Blindside and it is a GREAT movie. Steve maybe we can ALL talk about some of these things at MTR. Im super excited!!!!
ReplyDeleteKelli,
ReplyDeleteOur drive was not any better than yours sadly. Instead of 3 hours, took 4.5 to get back home with the same "fun" with semi trucks. Nothing against them, it is hard for them too, but I do wish they would not blow the little cars off the road when it is so slick :( And, yes, we had the blowing snow from them blinding us too...one time I was clear off the road (on my side at least) and very close the ditch and did not know it at all. But, at least you AND I made it!
Amanda...YES...we should plan to talk about this at MTR.
Drew and Alex...thanks for such kind words and GREAT to see you on here!!
ummmm, if you are refering to alex19991 as Alex, it isn't that is Ellen.
ReplyDeleteI loved Blind Side as well. I also love the idea of dedicating a practice to watching it and commenting on the messages contained within and how it relates to SR's mission. For me, trust is about knowing with full confidence someone's intent. Unfortunately, that trust can work either way, we can trust that someone is acting negatively or positively. But to achieve the level that regardless of how you act everyone trusts that it was with the best of intentions, you have earned something very special. Cherish it. If you are not there yet, work hard for it. Part of that comes from being self-aware, seeing yourself through the eyes of others, rather than assuming everyone can read your mind. Part of it comes by showing consistent compassion. Hmmmmm, I am starting to detect a pattern here.
ReplyDeletecompassion (n) sympathy for someone. trust (syn) credence, confidence, dependence, reliance, faith, depend on, rely on, reckon on, believe, hope, credit, commit, entrust, confide.
ReplyDeleteAs Webster's dictionary states compassion is sympathy for someone which means caring about someone no matter what their situation in life is. Trust is believing and confiding in others while letting them know the same can be said about you. If you trust someone with the most personal detail or feeling and to keep it to themselves, you want them to know you will do the same for them.
Why is there so little compassion and trust in the world today? Because people have forgotten the #1 person who gives it to them each and every day-God. The world is so focused on personal satisfaction such as money, work, material items, etc. that they have lost God and what he gave to us with the birth and death of his son, Jesus Christ. People are too quick to think the negative aspects and not look at the positive-such as family, God's love, health, friends.
With SR, the focus is not only on the SR family but everyone they come into contact with. They are a compassionate and trusting group who cares about ALL people-not just themselves and possibly a few others. The SR group can also be a refuge and healing process for people-whether you are in the group or not. They listen and usually stick by you, through thick and thin, whatever it takes to help you through whatever you are dealing with in your life.